Resilience

RESILIENCE – noun

The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.

Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever. Rather than letting failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise from the ashes. Psychologists have identified some of the factors that make someone resilient among them a positive attitude, optimism, the ability to regulate emotions, and the ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback. Even after misfortune, resilient people are blessed with such an outlook that they are able to change course and soldier on.

Fortunately resilience can be learned and developed. My first year in Dubai has been pretty though (I’m not the only one I imagine): it has been very challenging adapting to a different lifestyle and “open up”. Here are a few practical ways I’ve started working on personally:

– socialize and make connections – participating in groups provides social support and helps with reclaiming hope. Accepting help and support strengthens resilience.

-avoid viewing problems as impossible – stressful things happen, you can choose how you view and respond to stress. Be aware of the little things that help you feel better.

-accept changes as part of life – accepting situations that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can change.

-move toward your goals – develop realistic goals. Do something regularly. Every small success helps you to move toward your goals.

-nurture a positive view of yourself – develop confidence in your ability to solve problems. Trust your instincts to help build resilience.

-maintain a hopeful outlook – an optimistic attitude enables you to expect that good things will happen in your life. Visualize what you want rather than worrying about what you fear.

-take care of yourself – pay attention to your own needs and feelings. Participate in activities that you enjoy and find relaxing. Taking care of yourself helps keep your mind and body prepared to deal with stressful sitautions.

And if you need some professional help in Dubai, I would recommend:

THE LIGHTHOUSE ARABIA

The LightHouse is a community mental health and wellness clinic providing quality psychological and psychiatric care to children, adults, couples and families. Located in central Dubai, The LightHouse brings together an international team of licensed psychologists and psychiatrists offering a range of treatments. The LightHouse is also home to the Raymee Grief Centre, which provides free grief support services to anyone living in the UAE.

http://www.lighthousearabia.com

Empathy

 

We are Mirrors of Each Other

REFLECTIONS OF SELF

This is a more personal and introspective post, but it’s becoming one of my recurrent thoughts lately.

Could witnessing something extremely sad and heartbreaking change permanently your perspective on life? The worst aspect of feeling like you lost a part of yourself is not knowing how to get it back or if you ever will. And do people make a comeback to teach you something about yourself you didn’t get? Who is really experiencing life: the carefree spirit that burns bridges and never settles down or the one who commits, nurtures and builds?

We are mirrors of each other: people we feel drawn to reflect our inner self, and we act as a mirror for them as well. We are all interconnected and interdependent. Simple as that. “Like attracts like” is one of the spiritual laws of the universe. And everything and everyone is your mirror. What this means is that others are reflecting part of your own consciousness back to you, giving you the opportunity to really see yourself and ultimately grow. Everything you admire in another person belongs to you and the same goes for all that you dislike. In order for you to recognise a certain quality in another, then you must own it.  You could not see it otherwise. It is only when you truly understand what it means to see yourself reflected back at you, that there is no room for blame, there is no room for judgement and there is no room to feel like a victim of another person’s actions or words. There is only room for understanding and gratitude. Compromise comes easy, forgiveness is a given and growth is inevitable.

Be loving and respectful to all people, and you will attract individuals that will love and respect you back. Nurture compassion and empathy and let the goodness you see in others be your mirror.